I noticed today that my daughter has started biting her nails. I have been a chronic nail biter for years, and now I see this bad habit has been passed to my little girl. As I watched her (and tried to stop her) it became so clear that children learn from their parents’ actions—both good, and not so good. Aside from nail biting, what are my children learning from me?
Are they learning to love Jesus above all else, and choose to live in a way that honors Him? Not for the fear of what will happen if they don’t, but because life is so much better when He is the focus?
Are they learning what it means to care for their physical bodies as the holy temple God created it to be? Not because of fear what will happen if they don’t, but because they know the benefits when they do? Are they seeing me train my body and mind so that I am “ready for every good work” to which I am called?
Are they seeing me love people unconditionally and willingly sacrifice for others? Not because it makes me feel good to help, or be noticed for my good deeds, but because I actually love people like Jesus?
Are they learning to communicate well with those around them and be willing listen to understand—not just to respond? Are they learning that failure is a normal and expected part of life, and that what you do after the failure is the most important? .
When they are adults, the qualities we demonstrated for them will be assets or obstacles in their lives. What are our children learning from us?