Katie Kimball

"There was a suicide in the high school last year, so this anti-bullying training was really important," my mom said, explaining about the Tuesday meeting she spent at school in my hometown as a sub teacher.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ The entire staff, K through 12, came together to brainstorm best ways to prevent bullying. I was curious what they came up with, and as I listened to my mom relate their ideas, I realized something huge was missing.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ "Did they discuss cyberbullying?" I asked.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ "Oh yes," she said, "But that's really not something the teachers can do much about, it's so out of their control and out of school too."⁣ .⁣ .⁣ That's it, I thought, it's control vs. prevent...⁣ .⁣ .⁣ "You're right, it's really impossible to protect all the kids from every mean thing someone says..."⁣ .⁣ .⁣ We both agreed that bullying has been around forever, so what's different now?⁣ .⁣ .⁣ "Did anyone talk about building kids' resilience, like making them more able to handle bullying or other sorts of problems?"⁣ .⁣ .⁣ She stopped.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ She thought.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ With a look of obvious surprise on her face, she said slowly, "No, they didn't..."⁣ .⁣ .⁣ In a generation of helicopter parenting, the schools are inadvertently following suit sometimes, trying to clear problems out of kids' way and thus raising kids who can't deal with their own problems.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ There are lots of strategies that can be used by kids to whom mean things are said: humor, stress mastery, reframing the situation, building intrinsic self-worth, positive music, a listening ear... And they all build better humans, instead of simply attempting to improve a school culture at face value.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ My mom is sending the school principals my interview with Jess Sherman, author of Raising Resilience, and I can't wait to hear what they say.⁣ .⁣ .⁣ Search "kids cook real food building resilience" to learn more. Thanks to   @jess  .sherman_raisingresilience for this incredibly important message!⁣ .⁣ .⁣ https://kidscookrealfood.com/reducing-stress-in-kids/   #rasingadults     #raisingresilience     #resilience     #bullying     #antibullying     #buildconfidence     #confidentkids     #parenting     #raisingkids  

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eat_local_csra

Wonderful ideas 🙏

dr.catherineclinton

Such an important message, thank you for sharing. 🙏

allysonrogers5

Yes! Kids need to be taught strong values and to stand for them no matter what anyone else says. One of those most important values is that they are a child of God - and that God loves them infinitely more than they can comprehend.

dranamariatemple

Such an important topic. I agree. We need to build strong kids who can deal with adversity rather then remove all their obstacles. There is so much we can do

entenmomm

I know what you speak of! I think I’ll send the same thing to my sister. 💗

drroseannandassoc

Cyber bullying is such a big issue for kids today. So hard to navigate the social media world and most kids struggle at one point or another.

drnicolebeurkens

This isn’t an “either-or” situation, it’s both. Teaching kids to be resilient in the face of people saying and doing mean things is helpful. And it is also necessary to put measures in place to prevent and react to bullying. The types and intensity of bullying have absolutely increased since we were kids, and all the resilience in the world won’t address the problem by itself. So yes, help kids develop healthy self-esteem and resilience...and put strong prevention and response systems in place to help protect kids.

thenuttertree

Well said. I’m so tired of the bullying. Kids now think anyone not being kind to them is bullying. There’s a huge difference. And they are being taught (at least at school) how to deal with any sort of negativity.

mychildwillthrive

👏👏So glad you and @jess.sherman_raisingresilience are tackling this important issue❤️!

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